Last month, I was guided to write a post about honoring the Divine Feminine and to look within to find where we are still not fully respecting what she has to offer. But the ultimate balanced feminine energies are not just balanced within themselves but also in perfect balance and harmony with the divine masculine energies.
Looking out in the world, it may be hard to see examples modeling the healed male. The masculine aspects on this planet are struggling greatly with the necessary changes as we shift into a new paradigm for humanity. In the third dimension, the masculine aspect is feeling cornered and afraid and is grasping at anything to maintain the old structure of power and control in the outer world. In a misguided attempt to be strong, he is shutting himself off from the very energies which will help him heal and regain his balance: compassion, understanding, willingness to compromise and vulnerability.
And when I write “he” to refer to the masculine archetype, I do not mean to limit it to the male gender but to discuss those masculine qualities within each of us. The mirrors of the masculine dictator in the outer world are showing us where we each need some healing within. It may be time to ask your Soul: Where is my inner masculine still battling something/ someone? Why is my masculine self afraid to let go and surrender? How does my inner masculine still hold himself in separation from others/ from my inner feminine? Why do I need to know to heal my masculine self?
In the fantasy film The Dark Crystal, the split of the masculine and feminine aspects was illustrated when a race of great beings split into two races. One group was very wise and loving, but they lacked the strength to take action. The other race was powerful but highly corrupt because they lacked an understanding of their connection to all beings. When the two races were finally brought back together, they transformed back into beings of light in which both aspects were in perfect balance and harmony. They were whole in a way that they never could be when separated.
Divine Masculine love expresses through the capacity to listen to the feminine intuition and inner vision. Divine Masculine power is in the willingness to take right action to bring that intuitive vision into form. Divine Masculine wisdom is the knowingness of how best to serve the greater good, even when that means stepping aside, rather than serve the immediate needs of me and mine. The healed masculine energies are that of a spiritual warrior who combines strength of purpose with love and understanding.
What is blocking you from healing your inner masculine and being the powerful and gentle spiritual warrior that you are?
With the return of the Goddess energy and with more people turning to the more feminine arts such as yoga, meditation and recognizing intuition, we are experiencing the re-balancing of our planet which has been predominantly in masculine energy for a long time. More people are becoming curious and even believers in the significance of the divine feminine in our lives. But do we truly value what the feminine aspect brings?
Recently I had a realization about differences in the way I engage with others in my workplace compared to how I interact in my personal time or doing energy work or spiritual facilitation. I am more goal-oriented and results-focused at work. Even though I work in the health field in an office where we consciously try to set a soothing environment, I am often still motivated by getting things done. But, the healing work is not really about getting the prescription written or the data entered but about how I do that and the opportunity to touch someone’s life with a little gentleness and love. The encouraging smile, the kind gesture, the simple acknowledgement that someone is going through a rough time can be more healing on the inner than any conventional therapy. We just don’t always see visual confirmation of the results so we don’t always know if it’s “working.”
I realized that part of the let’s-get-this-done mindset at work comes from the belief that it is the reliable way to get things accomplished in the outer world. Many of us on the spiritual path are working toward deeper understanding and expression of the feminine, but still struggle with what appears to be the greater importance of results on the outer. So, we sometimes find ourselves defaulting to what seems like the “sure thing.” The vagueness of good vibes or an intuitive hunch feels a little too mysterious to be completely trusted every time. Yet, the spiritual masters know the truth that taking action (masculine energy) without the inner vision (feminine energy) just results in the world being even more out of balance and chaotic. Both aspects are essential for creation.
I remember a teacher of mine once telling another student, “If the cat pukes on your new carpet and the Goddess says that she needs you to stay in meditation and finish your energy work, then you stay in meditation. The cat puke will still be there when you’re done.” It was a startling analogy, but true. The value in the feminine energies of silence, reflection and inner listening is not in getting them done but in how we can be through the practice of them- states of being that continue long after the exercise.
So, ask your Soul to help you see where you currently do and don’t honor the value of your inner feminine. Does she have your respect? Are there times when you still nudge her aside when you believe you just have to get something done? Are there times when you get an intuitive inspiration but ignore it because it’s inconvenient or unconventional? The divine feminine within you is just as real and present as the masculine energy. She is not strange or mysterious, but very accessible and knowable if we open our hearts to her. She is part of each of us. Just as you would know thyself, know and honor thy feminine.
With the start of a new year, the theme of world peace often comes up. With a fresh beginning, we feel renewed hope for what is possible and renewed desire to make it happen. With the celebrations of Christmas, Solstice, Hanukah and others lifting our spirits, we see the world with the fresh eyes of what could be on this planet.
But the most important question to ask ourselves is not whether we can accomplish peace among nations, but whether we are at peace within ourselves. If we do not love our family members, friends and neighbors unconditionally and if we still don’t see ourselves in our divine perfection, how can we expect to achieve lasting peace on a grander scale?
In order for outer peace to become permanent, there must first be true inner peace within our hearts. There are those who are called to assist us by working out these issues on the world stage, but most of us can best contribute not by doing but by being. If peace in the West Bank or the Middle East or among our political parties seems out of reach, ask yourself if you are willing to take the next step toward peace in your own heart.
When we are modeling inner peace in our everyday lives, we are creating ripple effects that have a real effect in the world around us. The journey of a thousand steps starts with just one. We have the opportunity to choose each time we take a step, whether it will be one of peace.
Do you find it hard to surrender? Perhaps you are holding onto the “right” side of an argument or the “better” way of doing something. In many ancient spiritual teachings, surrender is an important practice for spiritual mastery. But in our everyday life, we tend to use surrender in defeatist terms. A sports team surrenders and loses the match. A nation surrenders when it is losing the war. Surrender has become giving up and giving in to one’s own detriment.
The divine perspective of surrender is much different. In divine surrender, we are free from all of the limiting beliefs and dense frequencies which hold us back from being the truth of who we are. In divine surrender, we are actually stepping into the wide river of Oneness and being buoyed by that knowingness of who we are. Surrender is not giving up anything, but becoming everything.
The path to this realization may not always be easy. I remember many years ago when I was in a car accident that fractured my pelvic bone and left me unable to do simple tasks to care for myself. At the time, I felt as if my whole being had been shattered. I felt broken. But the gift in the experience is that many of my old ideas about myself and old ways of approaching life were swept away. I could have held on tightly and tried to return to my old patterns out of a desire for familiarity to comfort me. But after letting go of my self-judgment and fear, I was able to give in to the experience and allow it to carry me to a greater strength and new understanding of myself.
I leave you with this excerpt from Richard Bach’s book Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah:
Once there lived a village of creatures along the bottom of a great crystal river. The current of the river swept silently over them all- young and old, rich and poor, good and evil, the current going its own way, knowing only its own crystal self. Each creature in its own manner clung tightly to the twigs and rocks of the river bottom, for clinging was their way of life, and resisting the current what each had learned from birth.
But one creature said at last, “I am tired of clinging. Though I cannot see it with my eyes, I trust that the current knows where it is going. I shall let go, and let it take me where it will. Clinging, I shall die of boredom.” The other creatures laughed and said, “Fool! Let go and that current you worship will throw you tumbled and smashed across the rocks, and you will die quicker than boredom!”
But the one heeded them not, and taking a breath did let go, and at once was tumbled and smashed by the current across the rocks. Yet, in time, as the creature refused to cling again, the current lifted him free from the bottom, and he was bruised and hurt no more.
And the creatures downstream, to whom he was a stranger, cried, “See a miracle! A creature like ourselves, yet he flies! See the Messiah, come to save us all!” And the one carried in the current said, “I am no more Messiah than you. The river delights to lift us free, if only we dare let go. Our true work is this voyage, this adventure.”
May you find your flow in the stream of surrender!
We’ve heard the spiritual one-liner: We are All One. It is repeated in many ways throughout many ancient teachings and philosophies. And it is spiritual Truth. But what does it mean for us in the “real” world of everyday choices?
In the Standing in the Light® community, we teach that when we are asking for guidance on something, we hold the intention to receive the understanding of what is in the highest good of all. As we make our way toward truly living in every moment knowing ourselves as One, we are practicing that concept by keeping in mind the greater community whenever we make a choice. We may not always feel that connection on a conscious level, but we hold the vision to experience it fully.
Many Lightworkers genuinely want to be of service to others and to the greater whole. After all, it’s what we came here to do. But we also sometimes bump up against our own fears of getting our needs met as we look to serving the whole. Sometimes, we may approach service to others or choosing the highest good of all as a bit of a sacrifice, a duty or a responsibility. That can feel heavy on our shoulders at times.
It’s important to remind ourselves that “me” is absolutely an integral part of “we”. It’s not just a theoretical idea, but is in our makeup far deeper than our sub-atomic particles. When we ask to understand the highest good of all, it is from a place of service to others, but it is also a service to ourselves! We are part of the whole and therefore must be open to receive that highest good as well as give it. When I ask the question with a truly open heart and know myself as One with all from a place of wholeness and abundance, I feel the highest good of all as my highest good. I feel them as one and the same.
Just as the infinite cycles of birth and death, giving and receiving must be in perfect balance going both directions, so must our spiritual service be for others and ourselves equally. When we truly know and feel that unity, the choice is simple. It is not a choice between “me” or “we”, but a choice for Love.