I confess I do like checking items off my “To Do” list, and I have always been one of those people who unpacks within the first few days of a move so that everything is in its place. These are great organizational skills to have, but they can also distract my focus toward the end goal rather than staying fully present in the experience of the moment.
For a while now, I’ve been working on several long-term projects that are each in the “middle” phases of progress and are not showing obvious, major jumps forward. The “list” part of me sometimes has a desire to jump in and make something more visible happen. Even though I can check with guidance and know that they are just in process and not stuck, I feel the pull of that old desire to feel the satisfaction of checking something off my list as complete.
But every creation has a life of its own, involving many unseen factors and energies, and the greatest benefit comes from learning how to remain in alignment with all of those factors as the creation unfolds. Like a good wine, we need to allow time for our creations to “breath.” In Standing in the Light® Level 2, we talk about the cycle of creation which starts with holding the vision, taking action which has an impact, then going into a phase of evaluation and rest before creating a new vision and starting the process again. This is how we can listen to our creation and stay in sync with the divine timing of it. We learn just as much, if not more, from the quieter phases of visioning and evaluation as we do from the more visible action phases.
In nature, everything is essentially incomplete as it’s always moving toward something else. The sunny sky will not stay that way as needed rain clouds are already blowing in from the West. The vibrant bean stalk growing so rapidly in Spring will not stay that way once it finishes fruiting because it will begin to wither and die.
Rather than thinking of these projects of mine as messy and incomplete, I am learning to see them as simply alive, either actively growing or temporarily resting, but always perfectly in alignment with each phase of creation. I am enjoying the freedom of putting one down for a time, walking away or shifting to a different project so that it has time to percolate. And whenever I’m guided to pick it up again, I know that I am perfectly in sync with the next step. Surrendering to the ease of this ebb and flow is the true joy of the unfinished task.
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This Sunday, millions of people in the United States and around the world will be watching Super Bowl 53, the football game between the New England Patriots and Los Angeles Rams. If you are like me, you will really be watching for the ads!
One ad that we thought might air, but looks like it won’t, is the Gillette ad that was released online on January 14. In this ad, Gillette, the company that makes razors and shaving cream for men, asked the question of whether “boys being boys” and men not holding each other accountable for actions that might be bullying to other men and boys and chauvinistic attitudes, actions and abuse of women and girls was really “the best a man could get”. “The best a man can get” has been Gillette’s tagline for decades.
The ad campaign has stirred up conversation and controversy. Some have said that the ad is condescending to men, ascribing collective behavior to an entire gender and claiming that masculinity is toxic. Others praise the ad as asking for men to hold each other accountable in the era of the Me Too movement. Apparently, Gillette is siting the cost of airing the 2 minute ad during the Super Bowl as the reason for not showing it vs. the controversy.
On the January 18th episode of the CBS This Morning show, there was a segment discussing the ad controversy. The hosts interviewed Ted Bunch, who is a co-founder of A Call to Men, and a psychologist named Lisa Damour. The mission statement of A Call to Men is “A CALL TO MEN works to promote a healthy and respectful manhood and shift attitudes and behaviors that devalue women, girls and other marginalized groups.”
Bunch stated that he didn’t think the ad was an indictment of masculinity but instead was an invitation for men to be better. Damour gives the psychological point of view that our society doesn’t allow men to show any emotion but anger (and anger is actually a secondary emotion with hurt or sadness as the primary emotion.) Bunch states that even though most violence against women and girls is at the hand of men and boys, the majority of men aren’t violent but the majority are silent about it.
As for my two cents worth, the Spiritual Hierarchy knows that many lightworkers are focused with bringing Divine Feminine Energy to the planet. It is appropriate for women to stand in their power just as it is appropriate for men to stand in their power. But standing in Divine Power is different from having power over another, regardless of gender. Our teacher, Kris Duffy always talked about “power over another” as having the qualities of being overt like using force or covert like using manipulation. People in female or male bodies can use either overt or covert power over another.
The goal is not to have a matriarchy system replace the patriarchy one. The goal is to come back into balance between masculine and feminine energies. The goal is for the outer culture to reflect the inner balance between our masculine and feminine qualities and energies. The goal is eventually to be in Oneness within ourselves regardless of which gender we were born with or choose in this particular incarnation. We have incarnated as male, as female, as gender fluid in this lifetime and in other lifetimes for the experience and the lessons we would learn. The ultimate lesson is to know ourselves as One / as Source without judgment regarding if we are women or men in this particular lifetime.
That is why Standing in the Light® Level 2 Part I class is titled “Experiencing Oneness through Balancing the Male and Female.” The Christ has not entitled a class called “How to beat them at their own game.” That particular sentiment is not Divine Wisdom, that is not Divine Power and that is not Divine Love.
The focus should be experiencing Divine Wisdom, Divine Power and Divine Love through anchoring Divine Masculine Energy within ourselves so that we may be in Divine Balance with all. That is the best a (hu)man can get.
Thank you to Pixabay.com for the powerful image helping to represent Divine Masculine Energy.
Here we are again at that time of year when so many feel the urge to list the things we want to change about ourselves, about our lives. The lists are often packed full of what we want, but are light on the concrete follow-through for achieving them. So, why not do an honest self-check and ask yourself what you’re really willing to give in order to experience those goals? Rather than a list of wants, create a list of willingness.
If you really want to lose weight or be healthier, what old habits are you truly willing to give up? If you want to put more into your savings each month, what monthly splurges are you willing to stop spending on? If you’re wanting a new partner, identify qualities within yourself that you are willing to share with that person, rather than what kind of person you want them to be for you. Be honest. If you’re just not willing to make that change yet, then set it aside. Sit with it and ask yourself why. If you know it would be in your best interest, then what is blocking you?
In Standing in the Light® classes, we teach that the first step of any manifestation is to check in with your Soul for guidance on what is the highest good to create in the first place. Then identify and clear the blocks you are still holding back from manifesting it. Next, allow yourself to begin to be those changes you want to make, as feeling states within yourself. Finally, what are your action steps to create that change out in the world? Instead of creating from outside in, we teach creating from inside out. With each step of the spiritual creation process, there must be a genuine willingness to make changes within in order to be aligned with new outer change mirrored back to you. That is the fundamental law of attraction.
So, this year, approach your goals a little differently and ask yourself what you’re willing to give to your creations rather than what you believe you’re going to get out of them. In the end, what you create in your life will be more deeply satisfying and infinitely more long-lasting.
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Many Americans (my husband and me included) have done a little binge watching over the holidays. HBO has been replaying the seven seasons of Game of Thrones. I am a reluctant fan as I have to cover my eyes during some of the violent scenes, but the intrigue of the storylines make me wonder about human nature, power over others, compassion and other emotions.
As I philosophize about the show, I like to also consider the actors and some of the other movies and TV shows they are in. I wonder if we as humans, could take off our prejudices and old habits of behavior as easily as the actors change their characters depending on what role they are reading at any given moment.
Emelia Clarke who plays Daenerys Targaryen, the Mother of Dragons on Game of Thrones, also acts in a movie that is a favorite of mine, Me Before You. In Me Before You, Clarke’s character, Louisa Clark, is pretty much the polar opposite of Daenerys Targaryen. Louisa Clark is a caregiver for a rich quadriplegic man named Will Traynor, played by Sam Claflin who many binge watchers might know from the Hunger Game Movies.
Louisa Clark is quirky, bubbly, outgoing, outrageously dressed and in her own words, “has never hated anyone.” Unlike Louisa, Daenerys Targaryen has been raised to reacquire the throne over the seven kingdoms with only slightly less ruthlessness than one of the other Game of Throne ruling families, the Lannister’s.
The head of the Lannister family is a callous father named Tywin Lannister, played by Charles Dance. Dance happens to play Stephen Traynor, the father of the quadriplegic man in Me Before You.
In the Game of Thrones world, if Daenerys and Tywin met, it would be anyone’s guess as to whose first-in-command would try to kill the other first and with what weapon – dragon, poisoned wine, or crossbow. Holding the throne is all that matters.
In the Me Before You world, Louisa Clark and Stephen Traynor are trying to find ways to help Will lead a more fulfilling, less painful life. Compassion and love is all they try to exhibit.
I have wondered if Dance and Clarke discussed this at their first table read of the Me Before You script. I often wondered if they joked about reading the Me Before You script with their Game of Throne personas or vice versa? Would you even be able to read Daenerys Targaryen as a doe eyed optimist who holds no grudge and not only looks for the good in everyone, but finds it? Maybe, maybe not. But reading Tywin Lannister as an unconditional loving father like Stephen Traynor is not believable.
I believe the validity of wondering about these cross versions of characters and personas is in the discussion of what we need to let go of in our past actions and beliefs, what we need to forgive and forget of ourselves and others who may have been party to storylines that we no longer need to repeat.
We would be better served if we could resolve to clear our energetic slates or our energetic character roles of any false beliefs, discordant emotions, old habits and attachments to old situations and prior lifetimes. We would be better served, if we could start everyday as a new role, a new character that we allow our “better angels” to help us form. If we could look at our experiences and respond with “well, I don’t need to act in that drama again because I have already played that part and I have already experienced what that felt like. Now, I can act a different way, believe something new and see what that experience feels like. I can choose joy, love and compassion over hate, revenge and greed. I can choose self-love and confidence over self-pity and loathing.”
For me that is the fun of comparing different “worlds” and our parts in those worlds. Choose to experience the actions that make you happy and whole. Choose to let go of any drama that doesn’t enhance your vision of yourself and others.
Choose a new experience, the one of yourself as completely in your power and love as Source.
(Much love and gratitude to the contributors of the amazing images from Pixabay.com)
What do you know for sure? And how do you know this? Spiritual teacher Krishnamurti once taught, “The day you teach the child the name of the bird, the child will never see the bird again.” The child will lose its innate connection with the spirit of the bird and see only the labels attached to the name.
We need language to function in the world and to communicate with each other. Words contain a great deal of information, but there is a big difference between third dimensional knowledge and Divine Knowing. How do I operate my car to get someplace? Where do I meet you when I get there? What is the name of the restaurant I’m looking for? This kind of information serves our physical needs. But when the words stop being simple tools because we start to attach meaning to them by giving them labels, they become ways for us to justify and strengthen our walls of judgment and separation.
Divine Knowing is not about facts or measurements we can see but is an understanding that comes from within, from our Soul. In Divine Knowing, we do not require proof that something is what we know it be in our hearts. We feel it. We connect with it. We know it without having to think about it.
Ask yourself: How do I know I love someone? How do I know that someone is sad even though they have a smile on their face? How do I understand the freedom of the bird in flight even while I’m on the ground? Because you feel it. The feeling is your knowingness. And the feeling comes through your connection.
While on a silent retreat some time ago, I took a long walk through the woods and tried to go through the entire walk without thinking of a single name of anything that I saw. (And it was much harder than I expected!) I focused on simply seeing the colors, the textures, the shapes while feeling the aliveness of everything. I was connecting with the unique essence of each plant, tree, rock without placing any labels or expectations on them. I was practicing what is natural to us in our pure divine state: to know something simply through being present with its energy, through my connection with it, through our Oneness.
As we move into the quiet of the winter season, focus on your knowingness from within. What do you know for sure, as your divine self? Does your divine self require words or thoughts to know this? What triggers you to forget what you already know?
The more we can let go of what we think we know, the more we can truly enjoy the mystery of the world around us. It is in the surrender of these identities, including our own, that we truly come to Know everything in the universe.
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Over the Thanksgiving break, I listened to a book on CD on my drive to Kansas. I was enjoying the suspense and action of the novel called The Cuban Affair by Nelson DeMille. The protagonist had been in the army, but was now a private charter boat captain in Key West. As the action heats up, he reminds himself that most people believe that life is made up of our choices. But, as a military man, he says he knows that life is a made up by our decisions.
I thought about the distinction between the words “choices” and “decisions.” I like the energy behind the word decisions. It feels much more empowering and more conscious than the word choices. Decision lends itself to the energy that there will be ramifications or even repercussions to the action taken. Or ramifications and repercussions to not taking the action. Recognizing the consequences will make us more conscious about the action we will take.
Even looking at the dictionary definitions, choice seems to be a selection between two or more alternatives. Whereas, decision is a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration. Again, decisions feels much more active.
In our quest to be more alive and more conscious, we might want to focus on integrating the energy of decisions. We can decide what we are moving toward. We can decide what we want to leave behind. We can decide to leave behind the victimization energy that might have held us to old beliefs and old habits. Focus on making decisions that will move us forward into our evolution and to help us remember the Light which we are.
Will the decisions we make today help our evolution? I hope so!
Thanks to Pixabay.com for the picture!