While working to master my own fears of scuba diving, I was guided to take the PADI Rescue Diver course. In this course we learn techniques and procedures to help if another diver is panicked, has run out of air or has had a physical injury including loss of consciousness. Later in November, I will be taking a re-certification class for the Wilderness First Responder training I have also had.
It dawned on me that the first step in both of these emergency response procedures is to determine if the situation is safe to help the other person. If you don’t have the strength, the qualifications or the training to help, it is best if you don’t offer aid. The logic is that you don’t want to turn a situation with one victim into a situation with two victims. I suppose this goes along with the airline procedures of always put your own mask on first before helping someone else with their mask.
I will tell you that I had to do my own meditating and clearing on this idea of not helping. I wonder why people struggle with this idea of restraint. Is it that none of us wants to feel powerless to help? Is it that we have watched too many action hero movies that we think we can pull off something that we are either not qualified for nor for which the outcome is going to be what the outcome is with or without our assistance – the impotent inevitability? Have we allowed ourselves to become too attached to a certain or even perfect outcome of all experiences? Could there also be a co-dependent relationship with the victim? I suppose it may be a combination of all of these and other factors too.
However, what if we aren’t talking about a life and death situations, but instead are talking about whether it is “safe” to help others in more everyday situations. We could substitute the words “highest plan” for “safe” to see if everyday situations should be acted upon. Are we allowing co-dependency to cloud our judgment whether to loan money to a family member? Are we checking with guidance regarding whether to stop alongside the road to give assistance? Are we willing to stand in our power to say “no” to a loved one when it isn’t in the highest plan to help because helping would be rescuing them instead of helping them to evolve?
Helping others when it is the highest plan is noble even part of our divine service. Helping others when it feeds their victimization is not in the highest plan. We need to follow our inner wisdom, our guidance to determine when to help and when we should refrain from helping. This is a balancing act that we can all master by following our guidance for what is in the highest good of all.
Thanks to Pixabay.com for the beautiful image.
Author’s note: I have been cleaning my office on this August day. I found this channeling and although a little early in the year for snow fall, even for the front range of Colorado, I thought the ideas this blog entry raises are welcome no matter the season. Transport yourself to winter…
As I watch the snow fall during rush hour in the city, I am reminded how the snowflakes are like wisdom. Most of the time, we are not the warm ground ready to integrate and embrace the snowflakes of wisdom into our lives. Instead, we are the harsh ground hoping to eliminate the unwelcome advice of the universe before we have a chance to enjoy the beauty. We don’t want to alter our habits and our plans for the evening. In fact, this life giving precipitation is seen as inconvenient at a minimum; do we have plenty of bottled water, milk and toilet paper (and wine, if you are at my house!) in case the electricity goes off? I am never quite sure how the toilet paper is supposed to help if the electricity goes out, but if conventional wisdom says to buy it, we do. And at the extreme, at least on the days we need to commute, the snow is threatening, a burden and potentially has the power to harm. At least that is how the headlines would read; “five killed in freak snow storm.”
Aren’t new ideas – aka wisdom – seen as inconvenient? I am going to have to learn something new? Didn’t I learn everything I was supposed to in Kindergarten, anyway?” We allow ourselves, grudgingly in some cases to learn new technologies, new techniques, but do we really open ourselves up to new ideas and concepts? “If my mother didn’t tell me about it, well then, it probably doesn’t need to be learned.” OK – I learned a lot, both practically and spiritually from my mother, but I am willing to admit, as would she, that there are plenty of other teachers out there who might have another piece to help me complete my puzzle.
If we don’t embrace the wisdom when it is falling slowly, lovely and silently from the heavens – if we don’t get it when the wisdom is gentle, then we may only surrender to the wisdom when it is piled high and terrifying. Just like the snow during the afternoon commute, the wisdom will eventually take hold. The only question is whether we will embrace it and be an early adopter; enjoying the benefits of the secrets the universe has for us and for all? Or will we be late comers to the new information? It doesn’t matter which we are. There is no judgment from the wisdom. It is simply a matter of how joyful is our commute home.
Being prepared for the snow may be as easy as being open to the gentle wisdoms; integrating the snowflakes as they fall into our conscious awareness, shovel as we go along and have the cork screw ever at the ready. Then, do as the high school students do: pray for a snow day.
Thanks to Pixabay.com for photo!
“The brain gives the heart its sight. The heart gives the brain its vision.” These are the words of Rob Kall, a biofeedback engineer. I like Kall’s idea that we need both the functions of intelligence and logic of the brain balanced with the compassion and love of the heart.
One of the Standing in the Light® classes focuses on energetically balancing the brain and the heart. The premise is that we need both of these aspects to be healed and working at full capacity in order to evolve into our ultimate mastery, in order to ascend.
The last time I taught this class, we talked about the myth that humans only use 10% of our brains and all the sci-fi movies were someone is exposed to a chemical, drug or other phenomenon where their brain is able to activate and utilize 100% of its capacity. Specifically, we discussed the 2014 movie, Lucy, with Scarlett Johannsson and Morgan Freeman, where the title character ingests a drug that increases her brain capacity and allows her to activate powers such as telepathy, telekinesis and mental time travel. Lucy’s power is unstoppable. The problem with the extra brain function is that it seems to have eliminated Lucy’s compassion and empathy for others.
This leads us to ponder that perhaps as important as understanding how wonderful the human brain is and its capacity to have more insights, gifts and powers then many of us use on a daily basis, we should also encourage balancing that with the compassion and love of the heart. This is what I believe Kall is suggesting, allowing the brain to give the heart sight and perhaps even common sense but allowing the heart to determine the direction for the actions to be taken.
Often, humans marvel at our intelligence and brain capacity over other animals while at the same time degrading and diminishing the feelings and dignity of others. To paraphrase the Mark 8:36 quote from the Bible, for what shall it profit a man if he has ultimate power and knowledge but doesn’t have compassion, love and kindness? Does the power and the knowledge make us computers as opposed to humans? Does acting as computers make us tools instead of enlightened beings?
The goal is to access ultimate wisdom and power while balancing it with vital empathy and love. The intelligence will allow us to see what needs to be done and the capacity for empathy and love will give us the desire to do it.
With the Fourth of July holiday upon us, my friend, Marsha Hankins, suggested a few books by authors who explored their inner freedom even in the midst of physical imprisonment. Viktor E. Frankl, a Nazi holocaust survivor, tells his story in Man’s Search for Meaning. Immaculee Ilibagiza, a Rwandan holocaust survivor, writes her story in Left to Tell. Both Frankl and Ilibagiza describe the deprivation of the circumstances they survived in the physical realm. Both authors speak of what they were able to withstand physically because of the transformation within. We can look to these people as role models for finding inner peace and freedom.
Frankl writes, “ When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Ilibagiza, a Rwandan who spent three months in 1994 hiding in a small bathroom with 7 other women states, “I found a place in the bathroom to call my own: a small corner of my heart. I retreated there as soon as I awoke, and stayed there until I slept. It was my sacred garden, where I spoke with God, meditated on His words, and nurtured my spiritual self…I spent hours contemplating the meaning of a single word, such as forgiveness, faith, or hope.”
These are beautiful thoughts and feelings during two of the most violent episodes of the twentieth century. Most people know that 6 million Jews died during World War II, but might not know that 800,000 ethnic Tutsis and 10,000 Batwa died at the hands of their Rwandan countrymen, the Hutus, over the course of three months in 1994.
Besides the underlying fear and hatred that precipitated these genocides, the divisions of the culture into ethnic and religious, as well as other categories, allowed for the identifiable markers to permit such mass action of neighbors against each other. Separating ourselves and others into categories helps dehumanize the “other” from ourselves. It might even allow us to see a different group as the cause for our current problems or potential scapegoat for issues in the future.
The Nineteenth Century Danish Philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard, said, “Once you label me, you negate me.” Not only does labeling negate who we truly are, but it is the seeds for incivility, discrimination, and ultimately, labeling is what leads to the divisiveness that has allowed hatred between groups and the consequences of violence against each other.
As with the Nazi and Rwandan Holocausts believing that the labeling of a person or a group as a basis for how they should be treated, is a slippery slope to civil wars and conflict all around the world.
What labels are you allowing to guide your thoughts, fears and prejudices currently?
Do you label yourself or others as liberals, conservatives, republicans, democrats, independents, gay, straight, male, female, or other? Do you label yourself and others based on education, religion, union membership, management, haves, have nots, 1%, or 99%? Do you label yourself as the ones with God on your side and the others with evil on its side? And then, do you use those labels to draw battle plans, determine who is right or wrong, demonizing them without discovering the issues or circumstances that make the others feel differently than you feel? Many of us take the label as the short cut for action and belief instead of taking the time to understand the human with the human fears, potential frailties and needs and desires, similar or different from our own.
Depending on which source you read, humans, chimpanzees and bonobos have 95% – 99% similar DNA with each other. If we are so similar to our animal brethren, why do humans label each other with abandoned disregard to the aspects that are similar within our own species? If we want to label ourselves, why not find common ground labeling like: air breathers, water drinkers, earthlings, sun revolvers, universalists, or unique expressions of Source. Aren’t these the qualities that we all are and need to cherish? Would the differences in our approach to policies be minimized if we saw the bigger picture, the “Bigger We” and used language with less rhetoric and hyperbole and more civility? Kierkegaard also stated: “People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for freedom of thought…”
As we celebrate the birth of our nation, can we still hold the words of the Declaration of Independence to be true, to be self-evident? “That all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
Can we change the trajectory of the slippery slope of demonizing someone else because of cultural, religious, ethnic, political or orientation label? We cannot wait for the “other side” to become civil. We must examine our fears, our lack of feeling safe and secure, and our need for someone outside of us to protect our rights and to heal these issues within ourselves. We need to encourage our internal wisdom, power and strength. Then, as guided, we may take action in the outer world for the issues we believe are for the highest good of all, but we will do it based on inner wisdom, inner power and inner love. We must look, as Frankl and Ilibagiza did, to changing ourselves to recognize who we truly are: Unique Expressions of Source. No labels, no divisions, simply Source.
I am writing today from a position and attitude of happiness. I would love to be able to tell you why I am happy – but I am not sure I can either quantify or justify why I am feeling this way. Which of course, makes it difficult to write any inspiring ideas as to how you might feel this happiness, too.
I could tell you it is the mild and beautiful weather in Colorado that is making me happy. I could tell you it is this fun dance community that I dance with that is making me happy. I could tell you that my husband and my dog have great dispositions and living with them makes me happy. I could tell you that I love how I serve humanity and mother earth, and that makes me happy. I could tell you that I have some cool adventures and travel plans for the rest of 2018 and that makes me happy.
All of these statements are true. But, I don’t think they make me happy. These details definitely allow for the possibility of happiness, but in the end, aren’t these just the results of my inner happiness shining through? My outer world is reflecting my inner world.
What does your outer world say about your inner world?
If you like what your outer world is telling you, that is great. Keep up that great energy! If you don’t like what your outer world is telling you, what do you need to change to bring into fruition what you really want to create for yourself? As Within, So Without. This is not just another platitude or punch line. I believe this is a universal truth. Our outer world can only be as great as our inner world is. As my teacher Kris Duffy use to say, you can’t heal the pimple by putting make up on the mirror that you use to see the pimple.
The Standing in the Light® Programs and the other blog entries here can help you with intellectual knowledge if you need reminders as how to take concrete steps to manifest your inner and outer world. Standing in the Light® Level 1 classes provide you the opportunity to learn how to manifest consciously.
5 Steps to Conscious Manifesting:
1. Learn how to align and connect to your own inner wisdom, your own guidance.
2. Learn the 3 R’s of manifesting: First “R” – Receive the Vision
3. Second “R” – Release / Clear the blocks to creating the vision
4. Third “R” – Resonate the vision and learn a 5th Dimensional healing and clearing technique.
5. Take Action Steps to bring Your Soul’s Vision into Fruition.
Use the energy of this summer to make any changes you want on the inner so that by fall you may see the changes on the outer – or you are comfortable enough with the inner world such that what the outer world shows you doesn’t define who you truly are.
Again, I ask, what does your outer world say about your inner world? Create it consciously.