Are you the tea or the pasta? You may have heard this question during a motivational speaker’s presentation. The question is supposed to determine whether the environment you are in – the water in this metaphor – shapes you or do you shape the environment. Do you turn the water into a nice hot cup of tea or does the water cook your noodle?
In spirituality terms, the question is about whether you can stand in your power (be the tea) or give your power away (be the pasta). For the record, I probably like tea and pasta equally, so there is no “hot water shaming” going on here! However, for purposes of remembering who we are, even in challenging times, you can see where we are going with this analogy.
When we look at the mirrors in the outer world, our anxiety and energetic frequency level might lend itself to making it feel like we are the victim of the hot water. We truly believe our goose is cooked! The more we can put ourselves into a state of remembering that we are the creators of our reality, then we will see the outside mirrors as a way for us to express ourselves, to express our mastery, without feeling the drama of victimization energy, rescuer energy or persecutor energy.
I will admit, that currently, this is something I need to remind myself daily. Here are some of the steps I practice in order to try to be the tea!
- If I feel my anxiety level starting to rise, I start to chant a soothing song out loud, silently or I turn on my media player. I am amazed how quickly I become centered and grounded, again.
- Next, whatever my monkey mind won’t let go of, as quickly as I can, I write it down in the form of a clearing statement. “Clear the fear and false belief that my children might move in with me.”
- Then, I identify what the underlying issue is for that topic. “Clear the fear that I won’t have time and space to myself, that I won’t have time to meditate, that I won’t sleep well.” If it wasn’t obvious my now, I really like my alone time. It is where I find my power and my truth.
- That leads me to my next clearing statement. “Clear fear and false belief that I am not able to stand in my power and in my truth when I am with other people, etc.” You can see where this is going. I just continue to find more detailed issues.
- However, if I don’t have time to do all this immediately, I start with #1 and #2 to get the energy moving quickly. I will come back to the details when I have time.
- The next step is to bring in higher frequency resonances. This can be done consciously by filling with resonances like divine power, divine love, divine wisdom, divine nonjudgment, divine peace – whatever resonances will help transmute the issue I am clearing.
- Another way I bring in higher frequencies is to take walks, preferably by myself. See #3 above. I enjoy walking with my husband and with my dog. However, if I am truly doing this for selfcare, I prefer to be in nature without worrying about anyone else’s needs. (I am sure there is more to clear here, as well!) But, as part of being true to who I am, I need to be willing to admit to my loved ones what I need to be whole. I need to put on my oxygen mask on, first.
- Finally, I like to read or watch something silly, joyful or something that will make me laugh. One of my “go to” feel good movies right now is Eurovision Song Contest: The Story of Fire Saga. This Netflix movie stars Will Farrell and Rachel McAdams. It just makes me laugh and allows me the pleasure of singing along with the cast and the real-life Eurovision contestants. It raises my frequency and helps transmute anxiety I might be holding.
These are the steps I take to help heal my anxiety. Find what formula works for you. Allow yourself to be the creator to affect your experiences instead of being at the effect of your environment.
May you know yourself as Creator
Gratitude to Oleksandr Pidvalnyi for the image above and to LoreVa34 for the image below.
