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Pull Your Self Together

Have you ever wondered if you are on the “right” path for your life? I know I have. Even sometimes when I am checking with guidance as to my next step, I am worried that I won’t “hear” the next step correctly or won’t be able to take the next step.

A few months ago, Marsha Hankins recommended the book Pull Your Self Together: A True Story of Alternate Realities, Spiritual Healing and Dimensional Wholeness, by Rebecca Whitecotton.

I have been reading it for a couple of weeks now. If you haven’t already noticed, I want to bring your attention back to the title. The words Your Self are separated instead of being the compound word Yourself. I am no grammar specialist, but I believe the Whitecotton was being very deliberate in the choice. If Whitecotton had used the phrase “pull yourself together” you might think her intent was to be a self-help book that wants to jolt you out of a rut with a firm “get a grip” concept. But, I don’t believe that it Whitecotton’s intention.

Whitecotton, from the very first sentence in her book’s introduction, shares with you her experience. “An alternate version of me from a different reality reached through the dimensions and showed me how to rescue myself.” (Page 1) She goes on to describe what the book can do for you. “If you choose, Pull Your Self Together can be a blueprint for your healing and discovery of a greater sense of wholeness by connecting with other versions of yourself in alternate realities.” (Page 2) Throughout the book, Whitecotton explores the metaphysical concepts as well as theories from physicists regarding the nature of the multiverse where we are living different versions of this particular life based on choosing one fork in the road over another. The idea is that all forks in the road have been traveled but we might only know about the version we are currently on unless we open ourselves up to experiencing ourselves in the other versions too. (The author does a much better job of explaining, but this is the idea in a nutshell.)

Truly, the title tells you exactly Whitecotton’s intent. To help you merge all aspects of you into the oneness that most people reading this blog (and the person writing this entry) say we want: the sense and knowingness of ourselves as one with all other aspects of ourselves as Source. But wait, there’s more! Eventually knowing ourselves as one with all other aspects of ourselves as Source leads to being One with All Of Source regardless of the dimension or the space time continuum. Pull Your Self Together is about living as the Oneness of Source. It is a fascinating read.

My intent with this blog entry is to point out a few quotes and topics that Whitecotton explores to see if they might speak to you as they did to me.

If nothing else Whitecotton says stays with you, allow yourself the wisdom that as part of pulling her self together she blesses herself of yesterday, herself of today and herself of tomorrow. Throughout the book, she explains the power and energy of something so “simple.”

Two of the ideas that came to me while reading the book is that we are stuck in our own judgment and in our own stubbornness.

In Chapter 40, In Search of an Ideal Life, Whitecotton explores the ideas of the Law of Attraction. This is where the idea of working with and holding non judgment really jumped out at me.

“When we try to create the ideal reality, we assume that the other realities – including the one we currently live in – are not ideal. Living in the third dimension pushes us to believe that one choice is perfect, and another choice is less than ideal. One is right; the other is wrong. We culturally define success as a big salary, fancy car, big house, soul mate relationship, and so on. What if we defined success differently? What if we could see success as simply being love in the world? What if we could see success as being brave enough to make a “mistake” and walk that path to completion even though it is painful? What if we also saw success as being willing to walk through sadness or depression so that we can come out the other side of that with something even greater than we can imagine? From the firth-dimensional perspective, all of those are success.


When I look at the Law of Attraction from the perspective of this one life I am living, it is logical to make this one life the “best”… What if the alternative versions of ourselves could team up to create a stronger whole? Rather than seeing life as a competition between those various versions of myself to see who could be the best, I could envision these other versions of myself as a cooperative team, with each version playing a different part that complements the whole. None of us can do it all. Only together can we be whole.


In one of my meditations, when I blessed the me of yesterday, I saw her handle a situation with more strength, confidence and personal power than I had when I faced the situation in my reality the day before. She was able to fully bring her power because the me from this reality sent her love and let her know that it was safe to shine her light fully in that moment. Once I saw her strength and what she was able to accomplish with it, I brought that feeling forward into my reality, and I know now that I am capable of what she did. I can own that powerful experience and tap into its memory, even thought it was not this version of me that experienced it. This was, indeed, a powerful use of alternate realities.” (Pages 216 and 217)

Whitecotton continues to discuss the Law of Attraction with the perspective that we know from the Kris Duffy quote of “It’s Not the What. It’s the Why.”

“This is not to say that I don’t want to consciously create for myself what I perceive to be a more fulfilling, happy life. Of course, I want a happy life, and knowing what I know, I would be a fool not to make use of this power to pull things into reality. It is, however, a difference of perception from the outset – an acceptance of all realities as equally valid and necessary, and a sincere gratitude for those versions of myself who are willing to take a hard and painful path so that others of me experience more joy. I don’t want to categorize as imperfect the versions of me who chose a simpler life, or who made a mistake and hurt someone, or who got so mired down in sadness that she could not function. Each version is an integral part of the plan of my universal self, and I love them all. I chose the path I am on because I want to experience it. At any moment, I can choose another path, but I don’t have to believe I am on the wrong path. I don’t have to beat myself up for taking so long or getting distracted or losing opportunities altogether. I have nothing to regret.


My heart felt a sense of peace when I thought about how much easier it is to envision a beautiful, amazing future for myself when I do not hold on to regrets about things I did not do earlier. I thought about how much different I felt about myself when I knew that even the most mundane, boring version of me was necessary and important to the whole. I thought about perceived mistakes that disappointed me from my past, and I loved myself for doing exactly what I did because it brought me to today. I smiled as I thought about how much easier it was to imagine a bright future if I started in this moment with total love for who I had been. I was exactly where I needed to be. I could choose any path I wanted to travel, knowing that one of me will be able to accomplish my highest visions even if this version of me falters.”  (Pages 218 and 219)

These paragraphs made me want to look at how I have been too stubborn to “start in this moment with total love for who I had been.” Do I want to allow who I have been, in this reality or any other reality, to define who I will be going forward regardless of the reality I am living? I need to stop giving my power away to the old version of me, the unhealed version of me. I need to stop judging the old version of me, the unhealed version of me. I need to “bless the me of yesterday, the me of today and the me of tomorrow.” I need to eliminate the stubbornness and judgement of the me of yesterday, the me of today and the me of tomorrow.

I need to start in this moment with total love for who I have been and for who I am now –  Source. To have total love for who I am as Source – Source yesterday, Source Today and Source Tomorrow. I AM SOURCE.

Here is the link to Pull Your Self Together on Amazon.

Thanks to Gert Altmann on for the image.



  1. Rita

    Thanks for such a beautiful, open, direct and healing and helpful blog Lori.💞🙏🏼

    • Lori

      Thanks, Rita. Rebecca’s work is inspiring to me!

  2. barry oriley

    Thanks for the helpful reminders! Whitecotton’s book is very comforting and stimulating. Your comments, Lori, have added clarity to my understanding of this great book.

    • Lori

      Thanks, Barry. I can’t wait to explore her suggestions more myself. Namaste.

  3. Rebecca Whitecotton

    Thank you, Lori, for this blog and insight into the impact these ideas have had on you. I love that you honed in on how stubborn judgement can be in our lives, and how beautiful it will be when we can release it and go forward in total love for who we are. I had not thought of it as stubbornness before, but that is a great word for it.

    • Lori

      Rebecca, I am continuing to work to heal all aspects of myself! Thanks. Lori


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