I remember an old 1970’s sci-fi film set in Earth’s post- apocalyptic future when humans had tried to resolve what they judged as the aging “problem” by simply eliminating the older people. At some point after their 20’s, people were sent off with a big, happy graduation party to walk through a big set of doors to some great unknown magical place and never seen again. None of the young people knew what old age looked like or even that it was a normal part of the human experience. It was beyond their understanding, but so was the wisdom of experience that comes with it.
As a meta-physician, I know that the physical body has infinite regenerative capacity. I know that the body is not the truth of who we are and that physical death is not the end of our experience. Yet, it is still difficult to watch a loved one struggle with an aging body because we still identify so strongly with our physical selves as the reality of who we are.
My cat, who has been my dear companion for many years, will soon turn 18 and has experienced noticeable physical changes these last few years. While she can still get around the house, there are days that her legs are stiff enough that going up the stairs is a slow process and she sometimes will opt out of getting up on her favorite perch on my bed, despite the special steps I’ve placed there. Yet, she seems un-phased by these changes, does not cry or show any signs of distress.
As her caretaker, I want to “fix” her when I see her struggle. Intellectually, I know that it does not serve her purpose to stay in this body forever, but I still experience the desire to “heal” her oncoming death from happening. I realize that this comes from my judgment that physical aging and death is to be avoided, and that it should be preventable if we just work at it hard enough.
Yet, when I check in with my Soul for guidance, I hear repeatedly that she is fine with what is happening and that she needs nothing from me but love. She is my greatest teacher in this, as she has been in so many things. She has no attachments to this lifetime and no beliefs about the rightness or wrongness of death. It is simply a metaphor for the transitions that we all go through in our spiritual journey, from one phase of our learning to the next. When it is time for her to make that transition, she will. No drama. No regrets. No judgment.
I am learning, as I watch her move uncomplainingly through this phase of her life, to let go of my own ideas of how things should be. If she does not perceive this as suffering, then why should I? Her aging body is the perfect vehicle for what she is both learning and teaching right now. It is exactly as it should be and does not need any fixing from me. If the time comes that I am guided to assist her in her transition, I will strive to do so from a place of pure Love. No drama. No regrets. No judgment.
I honor her wisdom in this simple truth: total and unconditional non-judgment of any of her experiences. I hope to follow her example in living my life with that fluid, cat-like grace of total acceptance. The total non-judgment of what Is.
In this country, we value our personal independence greatly. Yet, we often forget how much of a community we are with so many people we never meet. I can go to the grocery store and pick out whatever I want all on my own. But it took the efforts of dozens of people to give me that opportunity; from the farmer to the trucker to the produce stocker and many more. A breakdown at any time along that chain would have a direct effect on me, though I might never know why spinach wasn’t available that particular day. I will never be able to thank those players in person, but I can be grateful for their contributions.
Every day we have countless opportunities to participate as a global community, even more so now with the Internet and social media. What we do and say, the footprint we leave behind, has a very real impact and has the potential to uplift and bring us together or to tear down.
We each have so much to offer in this world, but it only benefits ourselves and others when we act. In smaller communities and villages, it’s easier to see the direct impact of everyone’s participation. If the blacksmith didn’t do his job, there would be no tools and the horses wouldn’t have shoes. If the baker didn’t work, the village wouldn’t have bread. In a global community, it’s harder to see the effect, but the concept is the same. We may never know the value that a piece of art we created had to someone else or how many children’s lives are touched by the park restoration project we spearheaded, but if we listen and act when we are called then we don’t need to know. The joy of doing our part is all we need and the ripple effect of such actions can expand beyond our wildest imagination.
In the movie Pay It Forward, the main character comes up with the idea for each person to do an act of kindness for three other people without reciprocation. The idea was that if everyone gave what they could to others, then we would all receive what we needed in some way or other. His vision saw the world as a global village. What goes around, comes around. This is a powerful vision and it does work, but only when everyone is fully participating in whatever way they are able.
So ask yourself, “What do I have to contribute? Where am I still holding back? Why am I still holding back?” We are unique beings with unique talents. No two contributions to the world are the same. Yet, we cannot do it without each other. We cannot do it alone. It truly takes the whole village to be a village.
In the English language, “love” can be used as both a verb and a noun. In our physical experience, the mental body tends to perceive love as the verb. We love another person for certain qualities, we fall in or out of love, or we actively express our love by baking pies and giving hugs. We have reasons for our love and then we act on them. But Divine Love is more of a noun, a feeling state. It has absolutely no defining parameters or limitations. Love Is, pure and simple.
As physical beings, we often feel the need to direct our love to a person, object or activity. We might say, “I love you” or “I love this coat” or “I love this view”, but our love always has a specific focus. We rarely say, “I love” or “I am love.” In Divine Love there is no need for a recipient of our love because the love is not an action, but our inner feeling. We may take actions which are expressions of our love, but the experience of Divine Love is within. It does not change depending on who receives it or how it is received. It is not bound by any outcomes. Divine Love Is.
In the third dimension, we are often asked to give specific causes for our love. We see it as something rare and, therefore, something that should have a specific reason to set it apart from all of the other experiences we do not feel love. If we say we are in love with someone, we might be asked what made us fall in love. If we say we love that mud puddle, we may even get strange looks because a mud puddle is certainly unloveable. In the spiritual realms, we do not make the choice to love one specific thing or person, but to allow ourselves to be the essence of who we are, the love that we are. There is no need to justify the love for certain reasons because our feelings of love are not caused by anyone or anything outside. Divine Love is who we are.
In the physical experience, love can also have a time limit. We fall in love and then sometimes we feel as though we’re falling back out of love. At that point, our physical relationship with another may end. But in Divine Love, there is no black line marking the endpoint. We may find that our paths diverge and move in a different direction from a loved one, but in the spiritual realms you can never lose love. Divine Love is not finite but eternal.
Divine Love is love without expectations, conditions or consequences. Divine Love is not limited nor the consequence of anyone or anything. One cannot do Divine Love. But we can all allow ourselves to Be Divine Love. It truly is as natural as breathing to the physical body. It is not a choice, it is not work and it is not complicated. Relax, surrender and discover that Love has been there all along.
I usually take note when I get a song stuck in my head or it keeps repeating on the radio because that is often a cue that my Soul is communicating with me. Lately, however, I’ve been missing my cue to a great message in the form of The LEGO® Movie theme song, I’ve found myself singing “Everything is Awesome!” on several occasions, most likely because I’ve been feeling lately that everything isn’t. I’ve been focusing on what could be improved or how things could be done just a little bit better, rather than enjoying the sheer miracle of the whole creative process. As Jim Rohn has suggested, “Don’t get frustrated, get fascinated.”
To help me through this piece, I’ve been guided to look at some of my judgments about how things are unfolding for humanity and how various individuals are acting or re-acting in relationship to these changes. While I know that I’m a creator of my own experiences and others are the creators of theirs, I haven’t been focusing on the value of creating collectively. Any time we interact with another, we have the opportunity to learn and grow from that experience and vice versa. These opportunities expand exponentially the more people we include in our experience. We don’t have to meet all of them personally, just to hold the understanding that they are all aspects of ourselves, aspects of the greater One, who are learning and growing and creating just as we are.
In The LEGO® Movie theme song, the opening lyrics go like this:
Everything is Awesome. Everything is cool when you’re part of a team.
Everything is Awesome. Everything is cool when we’re living our dream.
Seen or unseen, everyone has key pieces in the puzzle. Simple items like sticky notes and more complex things like smart phone apps help me in my own work and service to enhance others’ lives. Likewise, watching how someone handles a situation or hearing their personal story is also an opportunity for me to benefit. The important piece is not in figuring out how it might have been done differently, but in marveling at the beauty and imagination of how it was done. I never would have thought of doing it that way, but I’m glad someone did! Without that person’s unique contribution, I would not have been able to accomplish what I did.
When we’re each creating from our joy and sharing our creations with others, we are indeed living our dream as part of a team. When we live in pure wonder at this amazing, giant creation of ours, then everything is truly awesome.
I am 3 days late getting this blog posted. I’m also quite behind on several other projects which have their own deadlines. But over the past two days my house has been cleaned top to bottom, and I have re-organized closets, cabinets, shelves and drawers to sparkling, immaculate perfection. Ahhh! It feels so good to look around and see everything in its place. So, why was it a piece of cake to organize my house, but I can’t organize my thoughts enough to write a single page?
Try though I might to keep December a quiet, introspective month, it quickly ballooned with numerous commitments, appointments, meetings and various other deadlines. I was busy, and appropriately so. There were things that genuinely needed to be done in that time frame, all in divine order and perfect timing. But in all the activity, I lost my balance within. I veered too far into doing mode and kept on going without checking back in with my inner compass. So, when I tried to write, I was coming from a place of complete inner dis-organization, regardless of how well my house was shaping up.
As I sat here, laptop perched on my lap and waiting for words of wisdom to flow, I realized that while it may be fun to go to The Container Store and fill your cart with cute baskets and trays to get your life in order, it won’t last if you don’t have a strong foundation of organization and balance within. By next week, my house could look as disheveled as it had for those weeks in December. So now it’s time to get my insides back in order.
It’s not always easy putting the brakes on a train that has built up its momentum to a strong cruising speed. Proceed gently, applying the brakes a little at a time until you regain your balance between too much action and not getting anything done at all. We are still physical beings and there are things which genuinely need to get done. But, of course, we want to find that sweet spot of perfect flow between divine inspiration and taking action. So as I write this, I am holding the intention to come back into alignment with the present moment as I find that balance between the stillness of deeper meditation time and the next action steps for my other projects.
The good news is that once we bring our intention to something in our lives, the re-organization can happen rather quickly and effortlessly. Intention is key. We all have that point of balance and divine order already within us. We just have to remember where we put it!